DO YOU NEED A HUSBAND?
As women, we define ourselves by our connection to a man. Are we someone’s wife? Lover?
Think about Eat, Pray, Love. The book opens with the main character leaning over the toilet bowl, certain her life is over. Then she travels to Italy where she eats, India where she prays and then she loves—the true reconstruction of a life for a woman.
Look at Blue Jasmine, the movie. The main character discovers her husband is a fraud. She comes undone. She holds onto her role as wife of a wealthy man. She can’t accept her life without her husband.
This is literature, but art imitates life and when it comes to marriage, it’s no exception.
Famous cellist, Wasserstein, stated when she got engaged, now she’d be taken seriously. Yes, even a fabulous career USUALLY isn’t enough.
I remember talk radio host Dennis Praeger describing a conversation he had with three recent college graduates who asked him to guide them about meaningful careers. He suggested they consider motherhood as their primary goal and select a secondary career which could support that. As an extremely successful chiropractor and Qualified Medical Examiner, It is the role of mother that has given me life-affirming joy and fulfillment. While I’ve been fortunate to have a career which was financially and emotionally rewarding, it was nothing compared to seeing children grown into adulthood and create their own families.
However, this isn’t the same for everyone. Being a wife or a mother is a common goal, but others find fulfillment in travelling, volunteering, as an aunt or sister. In some cases, women have created their own versions of families with friends and neighbors.
Think about your life as a professional woman, a wife, a mother. Where does your soul get fed? Knowing this about yourself will allow the most fulfillment.
My novel, Sex Happens, is about a woman whose priorities develop with the curveballs of life. Her children remain the center, but she is able to gain more support from female friends, rediscover herself as a lover, and realize her strength as a businesswoman.
The novel is currently rated 5 starts on Amazon.com, and is available in print and Kindle formats. You can find it here: http://a.co/4DhDTdh
Dr. Carol Soloway is a chiropractor and qualified medical examiner, who has now entered a new journey as a writer. She is currently on her book tour around the U.S. Learn more about Carol and Sex Happens at www.sexhappensanovel.com or facebook.com/sexhappensanovel
Thanks to Dr. Carol Soloway for being our guest blogger today. Please do check out her new novel, Sex Happens. A great read, and just in time for Valentine’s Day!
Until next time …